The other day I was chatting to a friend in a pub after we had both attended an event and he began to tell me about his business.
He was clearly proud of his work, his staff team and the standards that he achieves for his customers every week.
The more my friend spoke however, the more he began to divulge about the reality of his world.
As he shared the details of his daily challenges, I found that we had a lot in common.
He revealed that his drive to succeed in conquering adversities had taken its toll on his marriage, just as mine did a decade ago.
Despite this setback, he had managed to maintain his commitment to build a sound relationship with his son and he was naturally as proud as punch of this solid bond.
An imminent holiday with his family was finally on the horizon but he admitted that it had been long overdue. His business ‘beast’ seemed to rule his life rather than him controlling it, so a day off was a very rare event. His weekends usually involved catching up on invoicing, record-keeping or quoting because he was too busy for all that during the week.
When I asked him about systems, he laughed and said that he was the system.
Most of the jobs needed his involvement, because he was the face of his business.
Is any of this familiar to you?
Do you ever have problems delegating work?
Does your business need your presence so badly that you barely dare to take a day off, let alone a holiday?
Establishing a successful business can often demand a huge commitment in the early days. When you are a good salesman, a good promoter and good ‘with the tools’ at the sharp end, it can be a daunting prospect to consider that for your business to truly grow and prosper, you need to step back and work on the business, rather than in it.
In many cases, you may need to learn new and different skills as your business grows. This may warrant further training to develop you to a new and higher level than the one with which you have previously been comfortable.
Of course, the concept of change can be scary, so there can be a tendency to continue on in your comfort zone, even when it is apparently no longer ‘comfortable’.
Here is a definition of stress – “Stress is the emotional and physical strain caused by our response to pressure from the outside world.”
Signs of stress can include: tension, irritability, inability to concentrate, feeling excessively tired and having trouble sleeping.
Physical symptoms may include: dry mouth, a pounding heart, difficulting breathing, stomach upset, frequent urination, sweating palms and tight muscles, especially in the back or neck (which may cause pain and trembling).
None of this sounds very appealing, does it?
This provokes the blindingly obvious conclusion that if any of this is happening in your world, you are very unlikely to be performing at your best.
I have known many business owners to describe these kinds of symptoms and anxieties. I have felt them myself in earlier days.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way! – You can get your life back and you can take back control of your business and your life, often with a few simple adjustments that will empower you.
Coaching for success and happiness is not rocket science, but it can help you shoot for the stars once again!
Tony’s Viewpoint: You’ve probably heard that old saying that ‘Sometimes you can’t see the wood for the trees’.
That’s where an investment in some coaching support can bring about amazing results, life-changing results.
If you feel as if your business controls you, rather than you controlling it, or you just know that it ought to be easier than it is now, that days off and holidays should be the norm, instead of some unattainable goal, then it’s my duty to say to you “Give me a call – maybe I can help”.
An initial chat about your situation will cost you nothing, so feel free to contact me. You have nothing to lose and just maybe you’ll regain the life you wanted to have!
Click here for a free report on the merits of coaching or drop me a line, using the contact form on this site and I’ll get back to you soon.
Until then, keep the faith. If you’re still in business, you’re doing better than a lot of people out there, so keep up the good work!